You’ve probably felt it before. Someone walks into the room, and without a word, you feel their presence. Sometimes it’s warm and uplifting — like sunshine pouring in. Other times… it’s heavy, draining, or tense.

That’s the power of energy. And here’s the kicker — it’s not just what you say out loud, but the language you carry inside you. Your self-talk, your thoughts about others, your tone, even your body language — all of it shapes your mana (your presence, authority, and integrity) and the way the world responds to you.

At Amokura Coaching, we see this as more than just “positive thinking.” It’s about consciously choosing the words and energy that either lift you (and others) up — or slowly pull you down.

In this post, we’ll explore:

• How self-talk sets the tone for your energy and mood.
• Why your words about others (even when they’re not around) matter.
• The role of body language in your personal vibration.
• Simple ways to be “the sunshine in the room” — no matter where you are.

The Mana in Your Words

In te ao Māori (the Māori world), mana is your personal authority, integrity, and presence. It’s earned and maintained through your actions — and your words.

Every sentence you speak is like a pebble tossed into the pond of your life. The ripples carry energy outwards, shaping how others feel around you and how you feel about yourself.

Self-Talk Matters
That inner voice running in the background? It’s your most constant conversation. If it’s full of criticism (“I’m hopeless,” “I’ll never get this right”), it’s quietly eroding your confidence and lowering your vibration.

Flip it, and the opposite happens. Encouraging, compassionate self-talk (“I’m learning,” “I can handle this”) lifts your energy and makes you more open, resilient, and magnetic to others.

Talking About Others — Even When They’re Not There
We all slip into gossip now and then. But here’s the thing: speaking negatively about others — even in private — feeds the same low-energy patterns in yourself. You’re rehearsing judgment and criticism, which can show up in your tone, body language, and relationships.

Amokura Coaching Tip:

Before you speak, ask: Will my words lift or lower the energy in this room?

Your Body Language Tells the Story

Words are only part of the conversation. Your body language speaks volumes before you even open your mouth.

Think about it:

• Slouched shoulders, crossed arms, avoiding eye contact — your energy feels closed, guarded.
• Upright posture, open gestures, warm eye contact — your energy feels welcoming, engaged.

Your body language can reflect your mood, but it can also shape it. Research shows that adopting open, confident postures can actually boost your own feelings of confidence and positivity. In other words — you can shift your energy from the outside in.

Amokura Coaching Tip:

Before walking into a room, take a moment to stand tall, roll your shoulders back, and breathe deeply. You’re telling your body (and everyone else) you’re here with purpose.

The Energy You Bring Into a Space

We’ve all known “that person” — the one who lights up a gathering just by being there. They’re not necessarily the loudest or most charismatic. What they have is a conscious way of arriving — their words, tone, and body language are all in alignment, radiating calm, warmth, and confidence.

This is mana in action. It’s not about being perfect or fake-cheerful. It’s about showing up in a way that makes others feel safe, seen, and valued.

Questions to Ask Yourself:

• When I walk into a room, am I adding to the light or dimming it?
• How do I greet strangers, colleagues, my whānau (family) at home?
• Am I leaving people feeling better after being around me?

Practical Ways to Lift Your Vibration

You don’t have to overhaul your personality to raise your energy. It’s about consistent, intentional shifts in how you speak, think, and hold yourself.

1. Start with Your Morning Words

The first thoughts you think in the morning set the tone for the day. Instead of “Ugh, here we go again,” try “Let’s see what good I can create today.”

2. Watch the Micro-Comments

The little throwaway lines (“I’m so stupid,” “Typical me”) matter. Replace them with words that acknowledge effort and growth.

3. Speak Light into Others

Genuine compliments, gratitude, and encouragement cost nothing but can completely shift the energy of an interaction.

4. Check Your Posture Before Key Moments

Before you open the door, pick up the phone, or step into a meeting — take two seconds to breathe, stand tall, and soften your face.

5. Choose Silence Over Gossip

When conversations turn negative, you can either change the subject or stay out of it. Your mana stays intact.

When the Energy Drops (Because It Will)

Let’s be real — no one radiates sunshine 24/7. Life throws curveballs. Bad moods happen. But the goal isn’t perfection; it’s awareness.

When you catch yourself in low-energy self-talk or criticism, don’t pile on guilt. Instead:

1. Notice it.
2. Pause.
3. Choose a better thought, a kinder word, a more open stance.

The shift might feel small in the moment — but over time, it changes how you experience yourself, your relationships, and the opportunities that come your way.

Your Mana, Your Choice

The language you speak — both out loud and in your own head — shapes your world. In te ao Māori, mana is not just given; it’s nurtured through the way you carry yourself and the energy you bring to others.

So next time you enter a room, pick up the phone, or sit down with your whānau, ask yourself: Am I bringing light? Am I lifting the energy here?

Because the truth is — your words are not just sounds in the air. They are vibrations, shaping the space around you and the life you are creating.

Amokura Coaching Tip:

Want to learn how to shift your self-talk, body language, and energy so you can show up as your best self?

Let’s talk.

You might be one conversation away from the biggest change you’ve ever made.